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Meet Your Life Partner

For men who are done with dating but do want a life partner

What You Want in a Life Partner Will Be
In Front of You, Available, and Live Nearby*
No woo. No bull. No fairytale.

(*the rest is up to you)

This program is different. It’s designed to do one thing.

End the Hunt.

This is a six‑session boot camp for men who are done dating but want a life partner. I teach you the skills that couples get when they come to my therapy practice. Apply those skills to finding your partner, and you will. The more you know about lasting connections, the more likely you’ll get what you want.

There’s a reason why you’ve burned out trying to meet your person. It’s the belief that dating skills are the same skills used to find a partner. They look alike on the outside, but they’re different.

Learning the wisdom and skills for partnering—not dating expertise—is what makes this class unique and successful.

Looking to the dating industry to find a life partner is like going to the drycleaners to buy croissants.

This course gives you the keys to the bakery.

Dating skills are just a subset of what you need. I’ll show you what you’ve been missing.

Imagine building your dream home by yourself, with no training. Failure. But if you train and get a contractor’s license, you’ll have the expertise you need to build your life-long vision. Voila! This program provides the expertise you need to fulfill your dream of finding your partner.

All dating skills are a subset of four partner‑finding skills:

ONE: With dating, flaws need to be hidden or fixed. With partnering, flaws are embraced.

The two most destructive dating myths sold to men is that you must be invulnerable, and that you must prove your worth.

Nonsense. First, we connect through our vulnerability. For men, that’s open-hearted and strong, heartfelt and virile. Unapologetically relaxing your into your core masculine strength and vulnerability is the most effective way to meet your partner.

Second, you’ll meet your life partner just. As. You. Are. Natural, messy, you, the you that you are when no one’s looking or judging, is who will find the woman who is uniquely right for you.

In the workplace, you get hired for the skills you DO have, not those you don’t have. You landed that fancy I.T. job because of your I.T. skills. Your tech boss does not care that you lack a medical degree. There are loads of women who are looking for what you already offer. What you lack is unimportant to them.

Scarred from childhood from so many betrayals? Plenty of women have been hurt and want someone who knows how to be vulnerable, and to safeguard it in a relationship.

Too old? You’d be shocked to learn how many women desire a mature man.

Too many pounds? No way. Many women hope to find a man who is at ease in his own body. Still have kids at home? Moms want men who are parents too.

You get the idea. You’ll step back from the power drive performative competition to prove your worth. Your authenticity will instantly filter out the 99.99% of those who aren’t right for you. That’s why men’s so‑called imperfections are a secret dating superpower.

Men complain that finding a life partner is like pulling a needle out of a haystack. I say: 

You already possess a magnet to pull the needle out of the haystack. I’ll show you how to use it.

The program gives you:

3 tools to reverse your old mindset about invulnerable, performative competition and leading with an open heart

2 methods to make your heartfelt masculinity an asset

5 shortcuts to meeting your Person


Letting go of competitivenes and perfectionism frees you up to discover your full self‑worth. Your true value comes from the inside, has always been there, and is unconditional. Most men have been socialized to measure themselves by performance and productivity. This comes at the cost of seeing how desirable and lovable they are, just as they are.

Your partner‑finding skill comes from being centered in and owning your own worth. A strong sense of your own value automatically creates healthy boundaries that connect you to the right woman.

Boundaries matter.

The course teaches you how to unleash your natural instinct for boundaries and and live from your pure‑gold male worth. Relating to women through your boundaries built from your value gives you the balance between being too tolerant, picky or way too giving.

You’ll no longer be drawn to women who don’t appreciate you. No more heartache or mind games! Others can see your full worth. When you inhabit your real worth you become a beacon for kindred spirits.

The program gives you:

A three‑phase exercise that transforms your social reflex to wall off or compete into natural self‑worth

A relaxing guided experience of your self‑worth as an emotional immune system that keeps non‑partner (the posers and crazy women) away

The positive traits that we show off when dating are like the icing on the cake. Partners get the whole dessert.

It’s naïve to think that what attracts you to dates is what you want in a life partner. Dating traits are a subset of what you want in a partner.

The program gives you: a 200+‑item checklist for what you want in a life partner.

You’ll learn to evaluate plenty of good and bad points in dates that you’d usually ignore. You gain the mega‑clarity to spot The One.

Dates look for what they can get from one another. Partners focus on what they offer each other.

SHOCKER: Knowing what you offer is far more important for two reasons. Claiming the authority of what you bring is empowering, alluring, and protects you from squandering your masculine gifts. Plus what you bring to a partner is so much more than what you offer a date. A partner mindset is growthful and calls forth even more than you ever knew you had.

This class teaches you to be big and bold, and emotionally vulnerable at the same time.  Then two things happen. You’ll stand out so your partner can see you. You’ll connect with those who also know the high value of what they bring to a relationship. This saves you from wasting time with women who aren’t for you.

The program gives you:

A 200+‑item checklist to discover your gifts

A relaxed, experiential deep dive into the soul of your unique guy energies

Book a free discovery call now! Text me at 510‑913‑4683

Meeting your life partner is possible.

It's possible you think you've already explored every option, and believe that finding a partner is now up to fate.

That's what I used to think. 

Then I figured out what stops people from finding their Person and developed an effective system so they could. The results were swift, consistent, and happy.

Meeting one’s life partner was no longer a baffling, hit-or-miss experience.

The men I work with gain the mindset to rapidly find their partner and have a new way of responding once they do.

Book a free discovery call now! I’d love to hear from you. Text me at 510‑913‑4683

I love to celebrate my students’ success, but it’s important that you understand that everyone is unique and may have different outcomes. Testimonials are not a promise of results. Please use your best judgment in determining whether my class is right for you.

Men have said things such as…

“I was always attracted to hot women who played mind games, were gold diggers, or wanted a father figure. When I called Val I was totally confused, fried and cynical. Now I’m finding hot women who match: they’re emotionally independent, and genuinely warm and caring. If this continues, I hope to get married this year.”

~anonymous

“Now I know what I really want and can see right through the crazy ones over the first phone call.”

~anonymous

“I gained the confidence and clarity I needed to find the One. Thanks, Val”

~anonymous

“Valerie thank you for giving me the skills I needed to grow up. Now I’m dating mature women. I thought they didn’t exist, but the problem had been me all along, not recognizing how to keep it real and be vulnerable AND strong at the same time.”  

~anonymous