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The 4 Quiet Signs of Trauma

When you think of trauma, does violence, sexual assault or a terrible accident come to mind? But there are quiet forms of trauma that can devastate our lives just as much as loud or big traumas. For example, relational trauma is often invisible, even though it creates the same type of problems as big visible trauma. Troubles like blaming ourselves...[ read more ]

Do Fidget Spinners Actually Help ADHD?

They are beloved by children and an irritation to teachers and parents. Fidget spinners fly off  store shelves, touted as a gadget helps anxiety and treats symptoms of ADHD. Is this true? Do fidget spinners really help kids? Many child psychologists feel there isn’t an easy answer, including Dr. David Anderson, a clinical psychologist and senior director of the ADHD...[ read more ]

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Parenting An Angry Teen

Raising a teenager can be one of the most challenging experiences a parent will go through. Teenagers are in an awkward stage, dealing with hormonal changes that are out of their control and a developing brain. They’re awakening to new realizations about themselves and the world around them. Teenage rebellion is a natural phase, however, handling it as a parent...[ read more ]

6 Signs of Depression in Teens

Ask any parent what their main job is and they will tell you it’s protecting their children and keeping them safe. New parents spend hours, if not days, baby-proofing the house. They research the best car seats and bike helmets and figure out ways to ensure their kids are safe online.But, no matter how hard parents work to keep their...[ read more ]

4 Signs Your Partner is Potentially Being Unfaithful

 Remember when Ashley Madison, the website that helps people cheat on their spouses, got hacked? As news spread, many wondered if their partner would be capable of cheating. A survey by polling company YouGov uncovered some startling statistics. When they asked roughly one thousand Americans about their fidelity, 21% of men and 19% of women admitted that they had cheated. Another...[ read more ]

Is it Possible to Rebuild Trust After an Affair?

The discovery of an affair brings overwhelming grief, rage, and feelings of betrayal. Despite this, betrayal usually doesn't decrease the love of either partner. When you still love someone but cannot trust them, is it possible to mend the relationship? Dr. Janis Spring is a clinical psychologist and author of After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a...[ read more ]

How to Get the Most Out of Couples Therapy

As a therapist, I often have a front row seat to relationship miracles. Well, okay, there are no miracles really. The fact is "fixing" a relationship takes work. It takes two people wanting a better life and then putting in the effort. I've seen couples go from nearly ending it to being back in love and liking each other more than ever before....[ read more ]

5 Tips for Reigniting the Spark in Your Relationship

'The spark' describes the essence of romantic relationships. Can you recall ‘the spark’ at the start of your couples' journey? Remember how your early days were on fire? In the beginning, you just can’t get enough of your partner. You want to see them all the time, and they're constantly on your mind. A romance blossoms and intimacy soars into...[ read more ]

Affairs and Betrayal – Part Three

Dear Partner, The terrible moment when you discovered your partner’s affair is called D Day. Some say that D stands for Discovery but I say it means Didn’t Know. You didn’t know that you could be SO devastated. Since D Day you’ve cried, raged, numbed out, told everyone or told no one, imploded, exploded, then put on a mask and...[ read more ]



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